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It's probably safe to say that most of us enjoy dressing up once in awhile. Having been rather tomboy-ish most of my life, my mother will vouch for me on this, I remember fighting with my mum every time she told me to put on something 'nice'.
'Nice' usually meant a skirt, or a blouse. She used to handmade smocking dresses for my sister and I when we were little. I refused to wear them, unless I was forced to.
But then I grew up.
With age, my likings and disliking(s) changed too.
I can still vaguely remember the first time I made the conscious decision to dress in something a little more girly. 12-year-old me, wore nothing but oversized swimming Tees and micro shorts.
I had this one pair of shorts that were super boxy and hard in terms of material. Mum used to joke that it could stand by itself. Really wish I had a picture of it but I think my mum threw it away the moment she had the chance to.
But back to the turning point of my non-existent fashion-sense life...
It could've been a boy (or not),
but I just wanted to feel girly.
So, I picked out a pale blue top with one flower right smack in the centre and I paired it with a skirt.
I felt so so self conscious coming down the stairs because I knew when my family saw me wearing a skirt, they would clap.
I think I've evolved quite a bit from those days. I started experimenting with makeup in college, and overtime developed my own style.
I think it's important to take time to figure out what works and what doesn't on your own body type. My figure is more athletic probably because of my sports background, but I'm rather small framed; so some things work better than others.
I have to admit, I wear a great deal of singlets, off the shoulder and spaghetti stripe tops. Not because i'm trying to dress indecently, stuff just fits my shoulders better and Kuching is just really hot.
That's probably my ultimate goal.
I'm not big on accessorising, I always feel less is more. However, there are times you want to just do a full glam up...
Those days I'd probably sport a brighter lipstick or go crazy on the mascara... still skipping on the accessories.
Except for chokers.
everyone knows I'm borderline obsessed over chokers.
Ultimately, the crucial part of me finding my own sort of 'style' was definitely due to the confidence that came along with growing up. Being comfortable in your own skin, feeling beautiful (doesn't matter what others think), and just experimenting.
There were times I felt pressured to dress or look a certain way, but I realised that it is pointless to try to look or act like something you are not. Gets real tiring after awhile...
So if you were like me at some point,
trying to find your confidence or trying to fit in.
I would say as cliche as it sounds, there is something special about just being you. If you like to dress up then by all means, but if you're more laid back... that's cool too.
Once in awhile,
it's fun to just get all glam-ed up.
Not to prove a point or to show off,
just for yourself.
Give it a go!